Many people who decide to run away think they'll find a life that's free of
the troubles they have at home, only to discover they're faced with different, bigger
problems. Life for runaway teens is hard. They often end up homeless, stealing, or
even selling drugs or sex in an effort to make money. Every year in the United States,
lots of runaway teens die, often because they are attacked, become ill, or take their own lives.
People tend to run away for a lot of reasons: abuse
(whether it's physical, emotional, or sexual), family troubles, or problems with school,
bullying, or friends. Some teens run away because of alcohol or drug problems
— their own or a family member's. Others run away to be with someone.
If a friend is thinking about running away, talk about why. Try to work together
to help your friend find solutions to his or her problems. At the same time,
speak with an adult you trust as soon as possible. Tell that adult
that your friend is talking seriously about running away. If you don't feel comfortable
telling your parents, ask another relative, a teacher, coach, school counselor, your
family doctor, or a religious leader for help.
A trusted adult might be able to help your friend understand that there are better
alternatives to running away. If your friend is still serious, though, make sure he
or she has the number of the National Runaway
Safeline: (800) RUNAWAY, or (800) 786-2929. This service for
teens in need is open 24 hours a day, every day of the year. The safeline can
help teens find food, shelter, and medical care, as well as provide counseling for
homeless teens in crisis. The service will even help runaway teens contact people
back home by providing a message service and setting up conference phone calls. Your
friend doesn't need to be a runaway to call and ask their advice: Many of the teens who
contact the safeline call from home or a friend's house before running
If your friend does run away, or if you haven't seen him or her in a few days and
you think that's what's happened, take action immediately. Talk to a trusted adult
and explain that you believe your friend ran away. Don't be shy about sharing any
information about where your friend might be going, and don't wait in hopes that he
or she might come back after a few days. Your friend's life could depend on it —
the sooner it is reported, the more likely your friend will be found safe.