Jason's life is beginning to unravel. His grades have slipped, he's moody, he doesn't
talk to his friends, and he has stopped showing up for practice. Jason's friends know
he has been experimenting with drugs and now they're worried he has become addicted.
Defining an addiction is tricky, and knowing how to handle one is even harder.
What Are Substance Abuse and Addiction?
The difference between substance abuse and addiction is very slight. Substance
abuse means using an illegal substance or using a legal substance in the wrong way.
Addiction begins as abuse, or using a substance like marijuana or cocaine.
You can abuse a drug
(or alcohol) without
having an addiction. For example, just because Sara smoked pot a few times doesn't
mean that she has an addiction, but it does mean that she's abusing a drug —
and that could lead to an addiction.
People can get addicted to all sorts of substances. When we think of addiction,
we usually think of alcohol or illegal drugs. But people become addicted to medicines,
cigarettes, even glue.
Some substances are more addictive than others: Drugs like crack or heroin are
so addictive that they might only be used once or twice before the user loses control.
Addiction means a person has no control over whether he or she
uses a drug or drinks. Someone who's addicted to cocaine has grown so used to the
drug that he or she has to have it. Addiction can be physical, psychological,
Being physically addicted means a person's body becomes dependent on a particular
substance (even smoking is physically addictive). It also means building tolerance
to that substance, so that a person needs a larger dose than ever before to get the
Someone who is physically addicted and stops using a substance like drugs, alcohol,
or cigarettes may experience withdrawal symptoms. Common symptoms
of withdrawal are diarrhea, shaking, and generally feeling awful.
Psychological addiction happens when the cravings for a drug are psychological
or emotional. People who are psychologically addicted feel overcome by the desire
to have a drug. They may lie or steal to get it.
A person crosses the line between abuse and addiction when he or she is no longer
trying the drug to have fun or get high, but has come to depend on it. His or her
whole life centers around the need for the drug. An addicted person — whether
it's a physical or psychological addiction or both — no longer feels like there
is a choice in taking a substance.
Signs of Addiction
The most obvious sign of an addiction is the need to have a particular drug or
substance. However, many other signs can suggest a possible addiction, such as changes
in mood or weight loss or gain. (These also are signs of other conditions too, though,
such as depression
or eating disorders.)
Signs that you or someone you know may have a drug or alcohol addiction include:
use of drugs or alcohol as a way to forget problems or to relax
withdrawal or keeping secrets from family and friends
loss of interest in activities that used to be important
problems with schoolwork, such as slipping grades or absences
changes in friendships, such as hanging out only with friends who use drugs
spending a lot of time figuring out how to get drugs
stealing or selling belongings to be able to afford drugs
failed attempts to stop taking drugs or drinking
anxiety, anger, or depression
changes in sleeping habits
feeling shaky or sick when trying to stop
needing to take more of the substance to get the same effect
changes in eating habits, including weight loss or gain
If you think that you or someone you care about is addicted to drugs or alcohol,
recognizing the problem is the first step in getting help.
Many people think they can kick the problem on their own, but that rarely works.
Find someone you trust to talk to. It may help to talk to a friend or someone your
own age at first, but a supportive and understanding adult is your best option for
getting help. If you can't talk to your parents, you might want to approach a school
counselor, relative, doctor, favorite teacher, or religious leader.
Unfortunately, overcoming addiction is not easy. Quitting drugs or drinking is
probably going to be one of the hardest things you or your friend have ever done.
It's not a sign of weakness if you need professional help from a trained drug counselor
or therapist. Most people who try to kick a drug or alcohol problem need professional
assistance or a treatment program to do so.
Tips for Recovery
After you start a treatment program, try these tips to make the road to recovery
Tell your friends about your decision to stop using drugs. True
friends will respect your decision. This might mean that you need to find a new group
of friends who will be 100% supportive. Unless everyone decides to kick their drug
habit at once, you probably won't be able to hang out with the friends you did drugs
Ask your friends or family to be available when you need them.
You might need to call someone in the middle of the night just to talk. If you're
going through a tough time, don't try to handle things on your own — accept
the help your family and friends offer.
Accept invitationsonly to events that you know won't
involve drugs or alcohol. Going to the movies is probably safe, but you may
want to skip a Friday night party until you're feeling more secure. Plan activities
that don't involve drugs. Go to the movies, try bowling, or take an art class with
Have a plan about what you'll do if you find yourself in a place with
drugs or alcohol. The temptation will be there sometimes. If you know how
you're going to handle it, you'll be OK. Establish a plan with your parents, siblings,
or other supportive friends and adults so that if you call home using a code, they'll
know that your call is a signal you need a ride out of there.
Remind yourself that having an addiction doesn't make a person bad
or weak. If you fall back into old patterns (backslide) a bit, talk to an
adult as soon as possible. There's nothing to be ashamed about, but it's important
to get help soon so that all of the hard work you put into your recovery is not lost.
Helping a Friend With Addiction
If you're worried about a friend who has an addiction, you can use these tips
to help him or her. For example, let your friend know that you are available to talk
or offer your support. If you notice a friend backsliding, talk about it openly and
ask what you can do to help.
If your friend is going back to drugs or drinking and won't accept your help, don't
be afraid to talk to a nonthreatening, understanding adult, like your parent or school
counselor. It may seem like you're ratting your friend out, but it's the best support
you can offer.
Above all, offer a friend who's battling an addiction lots of encouragement and
praise. It may seem corny, but hearing that you care is just the kind of motivation
your friend needs.
Recovering from a drug or alcohol addiction doesn't end with a 6-week treatment
program. It's a lifelong process. Many people find that joining a support group can
help them stay clean. There are support groups specifically for teens and younger
people. You'll meet people who have gone through the same experiences you have, and
you'll be able to participate in real-life discussions about drugs that you won't
hear in your school's health class.
Many people find that helping others is also the best way to help themselves. Your
understanding of how difficult the recovery process can be will help you to support
others — both teens and adults — who are battling an addiction.
If you do have a relapse, recognizing the problem as soon as possible is critical.
Get help right away so that you don't undo all the hard work you put into your initial
recovery. And, if you do have a relapse, don't ever be afraid to ask for help!