How Can I See My Doctor Without My Parents?

When you go to the doctor and your parent is in the exam room, you might not want to talk about things like sex or sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). While all doctors should offer to talk to patients alone, especially about sensitive topics, sometimes they don't.

To get some one-on-one time with your doctor, these 3 tips may help.

1. Talk With Your Parents First

Before the visit, tell your parents you want to start taking charge of your own health care, so you’d like some private time with your doctor.

If you want to give more details, you could say, “I’m embarrassed talking in front of you about how my body is changing.” Or, “I have questions about topics that might come up in the future, like sex, and I want to be comfortable asking my doctor.” This can show them that you’re becoming more mature.

2. Call Your Doctor’s Office Ahead of Time

Sometimes you might not be able to talk with your parents. So before your visit, ask the staff if your doctor can talk to you alone. At the visit, most doctors will say something to parents like, "I prefer to talk with patients alone so they can start learning how to handle their health care. They’ll also be more at ease asking questions."

Many parents agree right away. They may even be glad that you have a place to get reliable health information.

3. Tell Your Doctor at Your Visit

If you didn't call ahead, tell the person at the front desk that you’d like private time with your doctor. Or you can tell the staff member who brings you to the exam room.

Talking with your doctor alone may take some getting used to. But becoming more active in managing your care can help you stay healthier now and in the future.