How Can I Stop Cutting?
Cutting is a form of self-harm, and it can happen when someone is trying to cope with painful strong emotions. Once a person starts cutting, it can be hard to stop.
If you’re trying to stop cutting:
- Tell a trusted adult.
- Get help from a professional counselor or therapist.
- Find ways to feel better and resist the urge to cut.
Try these tips to try when you feel an urge. The goal is to replace cutting yourself with a healthier behavior.
What Should I Do When I Feel the Urge to Cut?
There are a bunch of different techniques you can try when you feel the urge to cut. The ones that work for you may depend on why you harm yourself. The more you learn about what's behind your cutting, the better you’ll be able to understand it and develop healthy ways to handle it.
When you feel like cutting:
Try a calming activity. If you cut when you’re agitated or angry, it can help to do something calming instead. Do something that helps soothe you, like:
- Call or text a friend or play with a pet.
- Make a warm drink, like tea or hot chocolate.
- Take a shower or bath (make sure there aren’t razors nearby).
- Wrap yourself up in a cozy blanket and listen to soothing music, watch a funny show, or read a book.
- Do a breathing exercise or try some yoga poses.
Express yourself. At times, your emotions feel may seem too powerful and painful to handle. It can be helpful to labeling how you’re feeling. Saying “I feel angry” or “I feel sad” can help you process these emotions.
To express what’s going on inside of you, draw or paint what you’re feeling. Write down your hurt, anger, or whatever else you want to say, even in a song or poem. Or play an instrument or sing along to music that taps into how you feel.
Release some stress. Sometimes doing things that release tension can help you gradually move away from cutting. You could:
- Go for a walk or run, ride a bike, dance, or do some other form of exercise.
- Rip up some paper.
- Squeeze a stress ball or handful of clay.
If these tips don’t help you resist the urge to cut, try others. For some people, it helps to rub an ice cube on their skin or wear a rubber band around the wrist and snap it gently when needed. Talk with a counselor or therapist to help you figure out what may work best for you.
What if I Stop Cutting . . . But Then Start Again?
When you find what works to keep you from cutting, you'll feel proud of yourself. Celebrate that win — it's not easy to learn a new behavior!
But it's also normal to relapse (fall back into your old actions) and start cutting again. It takes time to change a behavior and replace it with something healthier.
It can help to start thinking about the emotions or situations that led you to cut. For example, were you feeling frustrated or angry? Then remind yourself why you decided to stop cutting before. Write down what worked for you. You can find the inner strength to do it again, but know that to ask for help is also a sign of strength.
What if I Need More Help to Stop Cutting?
If there isn’t an adult to turn to, reach out to a confidential helpline. These are free and available 24 hours a day:
This breathing exercise can help you lift stress or switch from a difficult mood to a more positive one.
Finger Count Breathing
Finger count breathing is a good way to slow down and hit your internal “pause” button.
When we’re relaxed, air naturally flows deeper into our lungs. Practicing belly breathing can help you create these feelings of relaxation and calm.