I'm worried about my daughter because she is extremely shy and has a difficult
time making friends. Is there anything I can do to help her? – Kathie
Being shy isn't a bad thing in itself — but if shyness is keeping your daughter
from fully enjoying and appreciating the joys that go along with being young, there
are some things she can do.
One of the best ways kids can let go of some shyness is to think of a few simple
behaviors they would like to improve, then practice them. Let's say your daughter
wants to work on talking to a friend. She can practice thinking of how she'd do it
if she weren't so shy. Just working on smiling and saying "hello" is a good start.
Complimenting a schoolmate on a job well done in class, a play, or a sports competition is
Some kids find it helps to practice in front of a mirror, like they might practice
lines for a play. This might help your daughter feel more comfortable with a
new approach. Then she can practice smiling and saying "hello" in real life. It often
helps to start with one or two people she likes.
She also could join some activities that she's interested in — whether it's
the school newspaper or a sports team. She may feel nervous at first — that's
perfectly normal. More practice will help the butterflies go away, so encourage your
daughter not to give up.