I'm the girl who doesn't want to have sex, but everyone around me is doing
it. Should I give in? I'm freaked out about STDs and I just don't want to give up
my virginity so soon (I'm 13). I'm the odd girl out and I am sick of it. I don't think
guys even like me!
– Kamalia*
We all develop at our own pace — some earlier, some later. It's all normal,
all OK. What's important is to pay attention to your own pace and respect it, to know
what you feel ready for and what you don't. There's no rush. It's good to take your
time.
Your common sense about STDs
and sex shows you're more mature than lots of people your age. It's hard to feel like
the odd one out. But there are others who feel like you, even in a big town. Find
friends based on your interests, friends you can have fun with. There are guys and
girls out there who aren't interested in rushing into sex (we know because we often
get questions just like yours!).
There's plenty of time for things to happen for you. By taking things at a pace
that's right for you, you'll build a stronger sense of self-respect and self-confidence!
*Names have been changed to protect user privacy.
Date reviewed: October 2018
