How many feelings can you name? Happy, sad, scared? That's a good start.
Can you name some more? How about playful, joyful, calm? Mad, upset, worried.
Confused, lonely, nervous. Grateful, glad, cozy. Loved, friendly, peaceful.
There are so many feelings to name. Try coming up with some of your own.
No matter how you feel — good or bad — it's healthy to put
your feelings into words. Talking about feelings
helps us feel close to people who care. It helps us feel better when we're sad or
Putting feelings into words helps us use self-control when we feel mad or upset.
If your little brother took something of yours, you can say, "Hey, I'm annoyed
that you took that without asking me. Next time, please ask." No need to get in a
big fight over it. Just say how you feel and why, without yelling.
Know Your Feelings
It's easier to talk about your feelings if you know how you feel and why. Try these
Think of the name for how you feel. (Let's say you feel nervous.)
Think of why you feel that way. (Let's say you are nervous because you have a
spelling test tomorrow.)
Put them together into words. (Say to yourself, "I feel nervous about my spelling
If you don't know why you feel a certain way, you can still talk about it. You
can say, "I feel upset, but I don't know why."
Pick Someone to Talk to
A parent, grandparent, or a friend can be a good person to talk to. It's easier
than you think. You can start by going to the person and saying, "Can we talk for
a minute?" Then say how you feel and why.
Let the other person listen. Maybe they will give you advice. Or say something
kind. Maybe they will help you laugh, or give you a hug. Or say, "Don't worry, I'll
help you study your spelling words." Just saying how you feel and why helps you start
to feel better. It helps to know you are not alone with a problem or worry.
Talk About Feelings Any Time
You don't have to wait for a big problem to talk about your feelings. You can say
how you feel any time. It's a good thing to practice.
Talking about feelings doesn't have to be a big talk. You can make a short and
simple comment. Like this:
"Dad, I'm really glad we're having pizza tonight! Thanks!"
"I'm excited about the game tonight. I think the coach will let me start."
"I'm so relieved because I did really well on my math test!"
"I felt so awkward when I asked Kyle to the dance, and I was so happy
when he said yes!"
You don't have to talk about every feeling you have. But noticing your feelings
and saying how you feel and why is good practice. The more you do it, the
easier it gets. Talking about your feelings is a healthy way to express them.
And when you have difficult feelings you need to talk over, you'll be ready.