Have you ever lost your temper? Did you yell and scream or want to hit someone?
Maybe your little brother got into your room and played with your toys without permission.
Or maybe your teacher gave you too much homework.
Or maybe a friend borrowed your favorite video game and then broke it. That made you
Everyone gets angry. Maybe you "lose your cool" or "hit the roof." Anger can even
be a good thing. When kids are treated unfairly, anger can help them stand up for
themselves. The hard part is learning what to do with these strong
What Is Anger?
You have lots of emotions. At different times, you may be happy, sad,
or jealous. Anger is just another way we feel. It's perfectly OK to be angry at times
— in fact, it's important to get angry sometimes.
But anger must be released in the right way. Otherwise you'll be like a pot of
boiling water with the lid left on. If the steam doesn't escape, the water will finally
boil over and blow its top! When that happens to you, it's no fun for anyone.
What Makes You Angry?
Many things may make kids angry. You may get angry when something doesn't go your
way. Maybe you get mad at yourself when you don't understand your homework or when
your team loses an important game. When you have a hard time reaching a goal you might
become frustrated. That frustration can lead to anger.
Kids who tease you or call
you names can make you angry. Or you might get angry with your parents if you think
one of their rules is unfair. Worst of all is when you are blamed for something you
didn't do. But it's also possible to get angry and not even know why.
How Can I Tell When I'm Angry?
There are different ways people feel anger. Usually your body will tell you when
you are angry. Are you breathing faster? Is your face bright red? Are your muscles
tense and your fists clenched tight? Do you want to break something or hit someone?
Anger can make you yell or scream at those around you, even people you like or love.
Some people keep their anger buried deep inside. If you do this, you might get
a headache or your stomach might
start to hurt. You may just feel crummy about yourself or start to cry. It's not good
to hide your anger, so you should find a way to let it out without hurting yourself
How Can I Tell When Someone Else Is Angry?
When someone you know is angry, he or she may stomp away or stop talking to you,
or become quiet and withdrawn. Some people scream and try to hit or harm anyone close
by. If a person is this angry, you should get away as soon as possible.
Once you are away from the angry person, stop and think. Try to figure out what
made that person so angry. Can you make the situation better? How does the other person
feel? When the other person has cooled down, try to talk about the problem. Listen
to what he or she has to say.
What Should I Do If I Get Angry?
Don't lose control if you get angry. Taking it out on others never solves anything.
Instead, admit to yourself that you are angry and try to figure out why. What can
you do to keep the situation from happening again? If your little
sister gets a toy and you don't, it's not OK to break that toy. Maybe you can ask
her to share it with you. Or if your science homework is too hard, don't rip up your
notebook. Ask your teacher or a parent for help instead.
It helps to talk about
your anger with an adult, such as a parent, teacher, or relative. Once you talk about
anger, those bad feelings usually start to go away.
Here are some other things you can do when you start to feel angry:
talk to a friend you can trust
count to 10
get or give a hug
do jumping jacks or another exercise
draw a picture of your anger
play a video game
run around the outside of the house five times as fast as you can
sing along with music
pull weeds in the garden
think good thoughts (maybe about a fun vacation or your favorite sport)
take a bike ride, go skateboarding, play basketball — do something active!
Never getting angry is impossible. Instead, remember that how you act when you're
angry can make the situation better or worse. Don't let anger be the boss
of you. Take charge of it!