How Can I Find Out If My Boyfriend Has an STD Before We Have Sex?enteenshttps://kidshealth.org/EN/images/headers/T-expertAnswers-enHD-AR1.jpgFind out what the experts have to say.std, sti, stds, stis, pregnant, pregnancy, sex, having sex, first time having sex, virgin, boyfriend wants to have sex, boyfriend had multiple partners, girlfriend had multiple partners, new boyfriend, new girlfriend, oral sex, sidney, talking about sex, talking about stds, talk about stds, how can i tell if he has an std? how can i tell if she has an std? how to tell if someone has an std without asking02/06/200909/26/201609/26/2016Julia Brown Lancaster, MSN, WHNP-BC11/04/20153ae3187b-10a1-42c9-8b1b-b8eacf75c019https://kidshealth.org/ws/RadyChildrens/en/teens/std-talk.html/<p><em>My boyfriend has already had sex, oral sex, and mutual masturbation with multiple partners. I think we're ready to have sex, but I'm nervous that I will get pregnant or get an STD. How can I prevent these and get over my self-consciousness? Also how can I tell if he has an STD without asking him?<br /> </em>&ndash; <em>Sophie*</em></p> <p>You're right to consider these possibilities. Having sex is a huge decision, and an STD or unplanned pregnancy can change your life.</p> <p>Condoms are the best way to prevent pregnancy and STDs, so be sure to use a condom every time you have sex (including oral or anal sex). Like most things in life, though, condoms aren't 100% guaranteed. That's why you need&nbsp;to talk to your boyfriend about your concerns before you have sex.</p> <p>Your boyfriend has been honest about his past sexual partners, and that's a sign he'll be open to talking about STDs. Try to work up the courage to talk. You can start by asking your boyfriend if he's ever worried about STDs and if he's been tested.</p> <p>Lots of people have this conversation with their partners. Still,&nbsp;it's normal to be nervous when you first start talking. If your boyfriend cares, he'll want to help you feel comfortable in your relationship. Sex is about sharing as a couple, not one person's pleasure. Most people admire partners who respect themselves enough to protect their own health, even if it means asking tough questions.</p> <p>There's no way to tell by looking if a person has an STD &mdash; even people who have&nbsp;STDs sometimes don't know it. If you've had sex before, you and your boyfriend can get tested together at a local health clinic like Planned Parenthood. Or&nbsp;you can offer to go with your boyfriend&nbsp;for support if he wants. While you're there, ask for advice on birth control, since there's still a chance you can get pregnant even while using condoms.</p> <p>Testing is easy and usually inexpensive (some states even have free testing programs). Testing for the most common STDs can now be done with just a urine sample. There's one thing to bear in mind when getting tested, though: Although tests check for STDs that carry the most serious health risks, not all tests check for every STD. So keep using condoms every time you have sex. People should also get checked anytime they have a new partner.</p> <p><em>*Names have been changed to protect user privacy.</em></p>
CondomsCondoms may be a good birth control option for couples who are responsible enough to use one each time and people who want protection against STDs.https://kidshealth.org/ws/RadyChildrens/en/teens/contraception-condom.html/601fb788-f049-40d9-b234-feb62dfbd78c
How to Get Tested for HIVOften the only way to know if someone is infected with HIV is through testing. Here are the facts on what's involved in getting tested — and who should get tested for HIV and why.https://kidshealth.org/ws/RadyChildrens/en/teens/hiv-tests.html/1b9ba663-83f5-4cf2-af8e-30f7aa385bcb
STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases)You've probably heard lots of discouraging news about sexually transmitted diseases. The good news is that STDs can be prevented. Find out how to protect yourself.https://kidshealth.org/ws/RadyChildrens/en/teens/std.html/587b3e0c-bd0d-4d3c-93fa-6e8b38768ac2
Talking to Your Partner About CondomsSome people - even those who are having sex - are embarrassed by the topic of condoms. Here are some tips for talking about condoms with your partner.https://kidshealth.org/ws/RadyChildrens/en/teens/talk-about-condoms.html/0bb7d994-2553-4c59-a7a7-fb63eb0926fc
kh:age-teenThirteenToNineteenkh:age-youngAdultEighteenPluskh:clinicalDesignation-adolescentMedicinekh:clinicalDesignation-infectiousDiseasekh:genre-qAndAkh:primaryClinicalDesignation-adolescentMedicineBirth Control, Pregnancy & STD Q&A for Teenshttps://kidshealth.org/ws/RadyChildrens/en/teens/expert/birth-control/121c8069-986e-444f-8c65-b8116310fbc8Relationships Q&A for Teenshttps://kidshealth.org/ws/RadyChildrens/en/teens/expert/relationships/f37316b0-4bd5-4eed-beb5-cb80f3fb4ad2