I'm Not Ready for Sex But I'm Feeling Pressured. Should I Give In?enteenshttps://kidshealth.org/EN/images/headers/T-expertAnswers-enHD-AR1.jpgFind out what the experts have to say.teen, teens, sleep with, have sex, how old, start having sex, pressure, pressured, std, smoke, smoking, moved, moving, friend, friends, friendship, boyfriend, girlfriend, left out, alone, virginity, pressure to have sex, becoming sexually active, abstinence, abstinent, want to stay a virgin, virgin, not ready for sex, stds, peer pressure, new kid in town, just moved, new school, making friends, dating, self-respect, respect, confidence04/13/201010/08/201810/08/2018D'Arcy Lyness, PhD10/01/2018ccc81ba8-7b9c-4579-9ab3-e7df7a8bb144https://kidshealth.org/ws/RadyChildrens/en/teens/not-ready.html/<p><em>I'm the girl who doesn't want to have sex, but everyone around me is doing it. Should I give in? I'm freaked out about STDs and I just don't want to give up my virginity so soon (I'm 13). I'm the odd girl out and I am sick of it. I don't think guys even like me!<br /> &ndash; Kamalia*</em></p> <p>We all develop at our own pace &mdash; some earlier, some later. It's all normal, all OK. What's important is to pay attention to your own pace and respect it, to know what you feel ready for and what you don't. There's no rush. It's good to take your time.</p> <p>Your common sense about <a href="https://kidshealth.org/ws/RadyChildrens/en/teens/std.html/">STDs</a> and sex shows you're more mature than lots of people your age. It's hard to feel like the odd one out. But there are others who feel like you, even in a big town. Find friends based on your interests, friends you can have fun with. There are guys and girls out there who aren't interested in rushing into sex (we know because we often get questions just like yours!).</p> <p>There's plenty of time for things to happen for you. By taking things at a pace that's right for you, you'll build a stronger sense of self-respect and <a href="https://kidshealth.org/ws/RadyChildrens/en/teens/confidence.html/">self-confidence</a>!</p> <p><em>*Names have been changed to protect user privacy.</em></p>
AbstinenceAbstinence is the only form of birth control that is 100% effective in preventing pregnancy. Abstinence also protects people against STDs.https://kidshealth.org/ws/RadyChildrens/en/teens/abstinence.html/3e988671-f323-4e44-ad71-32d304b7506d
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Peer PressureResponding to peer pressure is part of human nature — but some people are more likely to give in, and others are better able to resist and stand their ground. Find out how to make the right choices for you.https://kidshealth.org/ws/RadyChildrens/en/teens/peer-pressure.html/a738dc1f-8b7a-4077-8040-2e675b62c28f
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Virginity: A Very Personal DecisionDeciding whether it's right for you to have sex is one of the most important decisions you'll ever have to make. Each person must use his or her own judgment and decide if it's the right time - and the right person.https://kidshealth.org/ws/RadyChildrens/en/teens/virginity.html/93f21366-9c67-4c18-80f3-e70d875935ca
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