Your Child's Self-Esteemenparentshttps://kidshealth.org/EN/images/headers/P-childSelfEsteem-enHD-AR1.jpgStrong self-esteem is a child's armor against the challenges of the world. Here's how to build healthy self-esteem in your kids.self-esteem, self-confidence, confidence, confident, helping my child feel good about herself, how my child feels about himself, feeling bad about himself, feeling bad about herself, can-do attitude, attitudes, self-perceptions, self esteem, feeling loved, pessimism, optimism, group activities, praising my child, complimenting my child, giving my child feedback, positive role models, irrational beliefs, home environments, constructive criticisms, fighting, arguing, fights, psychiatry, psychology, psychiatric, psychological, developmental medicine, behavioral medicine, general pediatrics, CD1Psychology/Psychiatry, CD1Psychology/Psychiatry, CD1Behavioral Health03/22/200007/11/201807/11/2018D'Arcy Lyness, PhD07/02/201854f51c71-4edf-436b-a58c-b75e3c7b64d8https://kidshealth.org/ws/RadyChildrens/en/parents/self-esteem.html/<p>Sometimes it's easy to notice when kids seem to feel good about themselves &mdash; and when they don't. We often describe this idea of feeling good about ourselves as "self-esteem."</p> <p>Kids with self-esteem:</p> <ul> <li>feel liked and accepted</li> <li>feel <a class="kh_anchor">confident</a></li> <li>feel proud of what they can do</li> <li>think good things about themselves</li> <li>believe in themselves</li> </ul> <p>Kids with low self-esteem:</p> <ul> <li>are self-critical and hard on themselves</li> <li>feel they're not as good as other kids</li> <li>think of the times they fail rather than when they succeed</li> <li>lack confidence</li> <li>doubt they can do things well</li> </ul> <h3>Why Self-Esteem Matters</h3> <p>Kids who feel good about themselves have the confidence to try new things. They are more likely to try their best. They feel proud of what they can do. Self-esteem helps kids cope with mistakes. It helps kids try again, even if they fail at first. As a result, self-esteem helps kids do better at school, at home, and with friends.</p> <p>Kids with low self-esteem feel unsure of themselves. If they think others won't accept them, they may not join in. They may let others treat them poorly. They may have a hard time standing up for themselves. They may give up easily, or not try at all. Kids with low self-esteem find it hard to cope when they make a mistake, lose, or fail. As a result, they may not do as well as they could.</p> <h3>How Self-Esteem Develops</h3> <p>Self-esteem can start as early as babyhood. It develops slowly over time. It can start just because a child feels safe, loved, and accepted. It can start when a baby gets positive attention and loving care.</p> <p>As babies become toddlers and young children, they're able to do some things all by themselves. They feel good about themselves when they can use their new skills. Their self-esteem grows when parents pay attention, let a child try, give smiles, and show they're proud.</p> <p>As kids grow, self-esteem can grow too. Any time kids try things, do things, and learn things can be a chance for self-esteem to grow. This can happen when kids:</p> <ul> <li>make progress toward a goal</li> <li>learn things at school</li> <li>make friends and get along</li> <li>learn skills&nbsp;&mdash; music, sports, art, cooking, tech skills</li> <li>practice favorite activities</li> <li>help, give, or be kind&nbsp;</li> <li>get praise for good behaviors</li> <li>try hard at something</li> <li>do things they're good at and enjoy</li> <li>are included by others</li> <li>feel understood and accepted</li> <li>get a prize or a good grade they know they've earned</li> </ul> <p>When kids have self-esteem, they feel confident, capable, and accepted for who they are.</p> <h3>How Parents Can Build Self-Esteem</h3> <p>Every child is different. Self-esteem may come easier to some kids than others. And some kids face things that can lower their self-esteem. But even if a child's self-esteem is low, it can be raised.</p> <p>Here are things parents can do to help kids feel good about themselves:&nbsp;</p> <p><strong>Help your child learn to do things</strong>. At every age, there are new things for kids to learn. Even during babyhood, learning to hold a cup or take first steps sparks a sense of mastery and delight. As your child grows, things like learning to dress, read, or ride a bike are chances for self-esteem to grow.</p> <p><strong>When teaching kids how to do things, show and help them at first.</strong> Then let them do what they can, even if they make mistakes. Be sure your child gets a chance to learn, try, and feel proud. Don't make new challenges too easy &mdash; or too hard.</p> <p><strong>Praise your child, but do it wisely.</strong> Of course, it's good to praise kids. Your praise is a way to show that you're proud. But some ways of praising kids can actually backfire.</p> <p>Here's how to do it right:</p> <ul class="kh_longline_list"> <li><strong>Don't overpraise.</strong> Praise that doesn't feel earned doesn't ring true. For example, telling a child he played a great game when he knows he didn't feels hollow and fake. It's better to say, "I know that wasn't your best game, but we all have off days. I'm proud of you for not giving up." Add a vote of confidence: "Tomorrow, you'll be back on your game."</li> <li><strong>Praise effort.</strong> Avoid focusing praise only on results (such as getting an A) or fixed qualities (such as being smart or athletic).<br /><br />Instead, offer most of your praise for effort, progress, and attitude. For example: "You're working hard on that project," "You're getting better and better at these spelling tests," or, "I'm proud of you for practicing piano &mdash; you've really stuck with it." With this kind of praise, kids put effort into things, work toward goals, and try. When kids do that, they're more likely to succeed.</li> </ul> <p><strong>Be a good role model.</strong> When you put effort into everyday tasks (like raking the leaves, making a meal, cleaning up the dishes, or washing the car), you're setting a good example. Your child learns to put effort into doing homework, cleaning up toys, or making the bed.</p> <p>Modeling the right attitude counts too. When you do tasks cheerfully (or at least without grumbling or complaining), you teach your child to do the same. When you avoid rushing through chores and take pride in a job well done, you teach your child to do that too.</p> <p><strong>Ban harsh criticism.</strong> The messages kids hear about themselves from others easily translate into how they feel about themselves. Harsh words ("You're so lazy!") are harmful, not motivating. When kids hear negative messages about themselves, it harms their self-esteem. 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