Friends are people that you can have fun with. Friends share, play together, and
laugh with each other. A friend likes you for who you are.
A good friend can cheer you up when you are sad, and keep you company when you
are lonely. Friends stick up for each other when someone is mean, or being a bully.
In fact, having a good friend can make it less likely that a bully will bother you.
That's because friends stand up for each other.
Your friends may change as you get older, but some friendships can last your whole
Where Can I Meet New Friends?
You might have heard the saying "There are no strangers, just friends you haven't
met yet." Friends are everywhere. Start by looking around your classroom — think
about which kids you'd like to play with at recess. Other places you might find friends:
school clubs, sports, and music groups
after school activities like swim practice, karate, or soccer
pools, parks, and playgrounds
places of worship
social skills groups (these groups help students practice talking, listening,
and building other friendship skills)
What Should I Look for in a Friend?
It's easy to make friends with someone who likes to do the same things you do.
That means if you like to draw, try to find someone who likes to do that too. Maybe
you love board games! Whatever it is, try to look for a friend who likes what you
like. When you have things in common, there's more to talk about.
Liking the same things is important, but it's even more important to find someone
who is nice. A person who is mean, makes fun of others, doesn't listen to the teacher,
and gets in trouble at school is not a good choice for a friend. Choose someone who:
smiles at you
lets others join in
is interested in what you have to say
makes you feel good
If you are wondering if someone could be a friend but you are not sure, talk to
your mom, dad, teacher, or another trusted adult. An adult can help you decide if
someone might make a good friend.
What Do I Say?
Once you've found someone who you think would be good friend, look for chances
to say "hi," smile, and be friendly.
Here are some other tips:
At recess or on the playground, walk over, act friendly, and say "Hi, can I play
too?" or just join in.
Invite someone to play with you by saying, "Hi. Wanna play?"
Offer to share something.
Say "Do you want to sit here?" or "Can I sit with you?" in the lunchroom.
Give a compliment, like "Cool sneakers!"
Just like you like to talk about your favorite things, so do friends. So when you're
together, ask your friend questions about himself or herself. "What do you like to
do after school?" or "What do you do for fun?" and "What's your favorite show?" will
make your friend feel special and keep the conversation going.
What Else Should I Know?
When you're making friends, it's important to know when to end the conversation
or say goodbye. People are ready to talk about something else, or do something else,
when they give clues like these:
not looking at you
looking past you or around the room
doing something else, like looking in their bookbag
changing the subject
If it helps, practice talking to a "new friend" with your mom, dad, or other trusted
adult. This way, you'll know what to say next time you meet someone you like. If someone
doesn't want to be your friend, that's okay but don't give up! There will be other
chances to meet new friends.