A new school year is exciting. There's that wonderful feeling of making a fresh
start, catching up with old friends, and making progress by moving up a grade. But
there's no denying that it can be stressful too.
What's Worrying You
If you find yourself preparing for school by hoping for the best and imagining
the worst, you're not alone. Here's what we heard from 600 people who took our survey
on back-to-school worries.
One third said they worry most about schoolwork. No surprise there.
You'll be studying more advanced material, so it's natural to worry about whether
you'll do OK.
But not everyone said schoolwork was their biggest worry. Just as many
people said they worry most about social issues like fitting in, having friends, being
judged, or being teased. Since social life is such a big part of school,
it's not a shock that social issues are the biggest worry for some people.
Besides schoolwork and social stuff, another category ranked high on the worry
list: appearance. One-fourth of the people who responded to our survey
said appearance issues worried them most of all. If this is you, you've got plenty
Kimberly, 14, told us, "I'm happy about going back to school — I'm bored
stiff here! But I'm worried about reputation, teasing, failing, and being a nerd."
So we asked people to tell us how they plan to cope with the things that worry
them most, and whether they have advice for others. You can see what they said on
the following pages.
Managing Worries About Schoolwork
Rachel, 15, told us, "I'm kinda hard on myself, like I feel really bad if I don't
have a 4.0 grade average."
Lots of people are hard on themselves, but worrying can just add to the pressure.
Casey, 15, offered this advice: "Stressing too much about it doesn't get you anywhere.
It's good to be concerned about your work, but you have to act on that."
Here are some of the plans you have for coping with schoolwork:
Zach, 18, said, "Better time management. I need to stop talking with the social
butterflies and get to work!"
Michael, 16, plans to "come home, take a quick break, and then get started on my
work straight away. Procrastination only brings frustration!"
Katie, 17, offered this advice: "To avoid trouble, do homework as soon as possible
and at least start projects the day you get them."
Finding the Right Balance — and Support
Fallon, 16, said, "Finding time for everything is going to be a challenge!"
Daniel, 14, agreed. "I play sports so I have to keep my grades up to play." How
does he keep the balance? "Work really hard and lean on my parents for lots of support.
If you have parents around that actually take an interest in you, take advantage of
that and let them be there for you."
Relying on other people for support and advice can help balance all the pressures
school can bring.
Claire, 15, depends on her brother. "He is 18 and has been through it."
Dana, 14, advised, "Use the guidance counselor. That's why they are there."
Chelsea, 16, said her teachers were a big help when she was trying to catch up
in school: "Since I asked for help I've felt more relaxed and more normal so that
now it doesn't bother me as much as it did."
Balancing school with life's other demands means staying healthy. Lots of people
told us their goal for the school year is to eat well, get plenty of exercise,
and lots of sleep so they'll be primed to succeed.
Managing Social Pressures and Problems
When it comes to the social scene, making new friends is one of the biggest worries
people mentioned. Lots of people said that friends would be in different classes or
even at different schools.
Jessie, 15, said, "I'm going to try to make new friends and talk more. Don't worry
about being awkward because others are too. Lots of people are good at being cool,
but they are insecure too."
Finding a safe, welcoming group is a great foundation for dealing with the ups
and downs of school. Jessie's advice: "It's important to have your own little or big
group that you can hang out with."
Lolo, 14, explained how "My best friend left last year, and I'm worried about who
I'll hang out with." Her strategy is: "Don't hang out with anyone who has a good social
image but who is mean. Try to find someone who will really be your friend."
Lots of people are concerned about drifting apart from friends and breaking
away from existing friendships to start new ones.
Jen, 16, told us, "I have not talked to my best friends all summer. I don't want
to be their friend anymore, but they don't get that."
Leanna, 14, said, "I am stressed about the groups and who I am going to sit with
because I have different friends in different groups."
Tim, 14, worried about "making new friends without ex-friends spreading rumors."
Brittany, 15, who worried about dealing with "rude old friends" offered this advice:
"Be nice to everyone. You never know who you may need help from in the future."
And Amina, 14, said, "There are these really jealous girls and they are always
stressing me out." She found that just being nice to them can make a lot of difference:
"They will be amazed at how you treat them and maybe loosen up some."
Using kindness to stop meanness in its tracks is one good way to deal. Jessica,
16, has another strategy for coping with rude people: "I just ignore them. It drives
them crazy when you don't act or seem like you care about anything they have to say."
Some of you worry that the things you did in the past will influence how people
see you now. Tina, 15, told us, "My best friend and I were in a car accident last
year when we decided to go to a party instead of school. So I am worried that my peers
and teachers will think that I am irresponsible because of that incident."
Amanda, 14, said her way of dealing with rumors and gossip is "to hold my head
up high, smile, and try to create a new reputation for myself. Change the negatives
How we feel about the way we look is closely tied to social issues, feeling comfortable,
and being accepted.
Codi, 14, said, "I am not usually a shy person, but starting high school in a new
school is scary. I don't know anyone other than those on my soccer team. I am afraid
that once they see me out of my soccer clothes and in my skater cut-up clothes they
won't want to talk to me."
"At my old school, I was the most popular girl," said Emily, 14. "Now I'm starting
to get acne and developing." Dealing with body changes is a big issue for lots
It's natural to worry about appearance, but most people said they try to keep
things in perspective.
Casey, 14, said, "A year from now, will what you worried about really be a big
deal? Other stuff is going to happen."
Lots of you recommend getting the support of a friend, parent, or counselor when
you're feeling down about your appearance.
Keisha, 15, said, "Don't worry about it so much. And when your family and friends
say you look great, accept the compliment, because it's true!"
Mickie, 14, told us she has no worries about starting school, but she does have
this advice for looking good on the first day: "Wear clothes that fit your style.
Don't wear something that makes you look like a poser."
And Lia, 14, reminds us, "If you're worried about your clothes and how you look,
just remember that it's what's on the inside that matters."