Discussing Problems
When problems such as biting arise, the best tip is for parents and the teacher
to sit down and discuss the issue together. If your child has serious behavioral problems,
talk to your doctor, who can work with your child and may refer you to a psychologist.
If your preschooler complains about the teacher, try to find out the specifics.
Often, preschoolers might complain if they're put in time-out or not given a popular
classroom job, such as line leader. It's helpful if you support the teacher and talk
to your child about following rules or taking turns.
In deciding whether to bring up a problem with the teacher, it's important not
to overestimate a preschooler's point of view. If, for example, your toddler complains
that "no one plays with me" or "I'm bored" in school, give it some time if it doesn't
seem serious.
Preschoolers' likes and dislikes frequently change, and they're just starting to
learn how to interact with other kids their age. Also, a whole range of factors —
including whether they're sick, hungry, or tired — can influence day-to-day
reactions to school. However, if your child continues to complain, acts different
from usual, or is unusually unhappy, contact the teacher at once.
If you have concerns about the teacher's style or performance, talk to him or her
first. If your concerns aren't resolved to your satisfaction, your next stop should
be the teacher's supervisor. Try to work out any problems rather than changing preschool
teachers midyear, unless absolutely necessary. Kids who are switched to a new school
might interpret that to mean that whenever there's a problem, it can be solved with
a new teacher or a new school. It's better to show kids how to work through problems
rather than avoid them.
Building a Relationship
It's important to form a good relationship with your child's preschool teacher
— for both you and your child. Approach the teacher with an open mind and clear,
direct questions, so that you can be a part of your child's preschool experience and
take pride in your little one's achievements.
Remember to also share praise — both yours and your child's — with
the teacher, as well as his or her supervisor ("My child really enjoys storytime,"
for example). This approach not only makes the teacher feel appreciated, but also
creates a positive framework that makes it easier for teachers to receive any negative
feedback in a constructive way.
Think of yourself and your child's teacher as a team whose shared goal is to help
make your child's preschool experience a happy and productive one./p>