Grown-ups are usually there to help and encourage kids, right? They take care of
kids, help them learn how to do things, show them the right way to behave, and encourage
the good things that kids do. Most adults treat kids well. But some adults hurt kids
rather than help them. Another word for hurting someone is "abuse."
Child abuse (say: ah-BYOOS) can affect all kinds of kids, no matter where they
live, how much money their families have, or who they live with. A kid can be abused
by a parent, a stepparent, family member, a babysitter, teacher, coach, or a bigger
Child abuse can happen anywhere — at home, school, childcare, or even in
a church or other religious building.
Tell Right Away
A kid who is being seriously hurt or harmed should tell a trusted adult right away.
This can be hard because the abuser (the person who is hurting or harming someone)
might have frightened the boy or girl into staying quiet. No matter what the abuser
says, abuse is always wrong — and a kid can ask for and get help in a few different
A kid who can't think of a trusted adult to tell, or is worried about upsetting
a parent or making someone angry, can call a special telephone number called a helpline,
such as 1-800-4-A-CHILD. This hotline is open 24 hours a day, every day of the year.
Your call is private and the people who answer the phone are trained to help. You
also can go to their website
to get help.
If you know someone else who you think is being abused, you can help by telling
your parent or another adult.
How Do You Know Something Is Abuse?
There are lots of forms of abuse — including hitting, constant screaming
and yelling, or being touched sexually. A kid who is being abused can experience different
types of abuse or one kind. It helps to understand the different types of abuse: physical,
sexual, verbal or emotional, and neglect.
Physical abuse: Physical abuse is hitting hard with a hand or
an object like a belt, especially hits that leave bruises or cuts. Shaking, pushing,
choking, painful grabbing, and kicking also can be physical abuse.
Sexual abuse: Your body has private parts. These are the parts
that are covered by your bathing suit or underwear: breasts, vagina, and bottom for
girls, and penis and bottom for boys. If an adult or another kid touches a kid's private
parts or tells a kid to touch theirs, it is sexual abuse. When this happens, the person
might tell the kid that this touching is a secret and not to tell anyone. But a kid
does not have to keep this secret. Tell a trusted adult, or more than one, until someone
To explain sexual abuse, people talk about good touches and bad touches. We all
know what a good touch feels like. A good touch might be a hug from your mom or dad,
a snuggle with your grandma for a story, or a cuddle with your pet. But some touches
feel bad or confusing. Your body is yours and you should be able to tell people when
you don't like them to touch you. Even if you don't mind doing it or are curious,
or want to make that person feel happy, sexual touching between adults and kids is
Verbal or emotional abuse: This kind of abuse can happen without
touching. It can be verbal abuse if someone yells all the time, calls the kid mean
names, or threatens to leave the kid or have him or her adopted. All kids deserve
to have adults in their lives who love and support them as they grow up. It's common
for parents get angry with their kids once in a while. But if there's yelling, punishing,
and threatening too much of the time, a kid can start feeling really bad. It's really
important to tell a trusted adult this is happening.
Physical neglect: Neglect happens when kids live in a home where
the adults don't give them basic stuff that all kids need — like food, clean
clothes, and a bed to sleep in. When parents or caretakers neglect kids, the kids
may not get baths, sleep under warm blankets, or get checkups or medicine when they
It can be hard for a kid to tell someone that they're not getting these important
things. A parent or caregiver might have troubles such as losing a job, having family
problems, or using alcohol or drugs. But no matter why it is happening, a kid needs
to tell someone. Then, the kid can start getting the stuff they need and the parent
or caregiver can get help too.
How to Tell Someone What Is Happening
You know it's important for kids to tell someone if they think they're being hurt,
harmed, or abused. But how does a kid tell? Here are some ideas:
Talk to a trusted adult in person.
Talk to a trusted adult on the phone.
Write a note, an email, or send a letter to the trusted adult.
Tell someone at school, like a school
counselor, school nurse, teacher, or coach.
Tell a friend's mom or dad, big brother, or big sister.
Tell someone who answers the phone at a hotline service, such as 1-800-4-A-CHILD.
The way a kid tells and whom a kid tells will be different depending on the situation.
The most important thing is to tell someone — or even several people —
until someone takes action to stop the abuse from happening. Kids who let adults know
that someone is hurting them, even if it's someone they love, might be helping other
kids as well as themselves. Let the person know you need to talk about something in
private. If you're not sure if it's abuse, you can tell the person that something
happened and you want to check to see if it might be abuse.
It takes a lot of courage to talk about this kind of thing, and sometimes it takes
a while to feel strong enough to talk about it. That's OK. Just know that, in the
end, telling a safe person is the bravest thing a kid can do. It can feel really good
when a kid takes steps to stay safe and happy and stop abuse from happening.