Why Do Teens Cut?
Teens cut for many different reasons:
Powerful overwhelming emotions. Most teens who cut are struggling
with powerful emotions. To them, cutting might seem like the only way to express or
interrupt feelings that seem too intense to endure. Emotional pain over rejection,
lost or broken relationships, or deep grief can be overwhelming for some teens.
And many times they're dealing with emotional pain or difficult situations that
no one knows about. Pressure to be perfect or to live up to impossible standards —
their own or someone else's — can cause some teens unbearable pain. Some teens
who cut have been deeply hurt by harsh treatment or by situations that have left them
feeling unsupported, powerless, unworthy, or unloved.
Some teens have experienced trauma, which can cause waves of emotional numbness
called dissociation. For them, cutting can be a way of testing whether they can still
"feel" pain. Others describe cutting as a way of "waking up" from that emotional numbness.
Self-inflicted physical pain is specific and visible. For some,
the physical pain of cutting can seem preferable to emotional pain. Emotional pain
can feel vague and hard to pinpoint, talk about, or soothe.
When they cut, teens say there is a sense of control and relief to see and know
where the specific pain is coming from and a sense of soothing when it stops. Cutting
can symbolize inner pain that might not have been verbalized, confided, acknowledged,
or healed. And because it's self-inflicted, it is pain the teen controls.
A sense of relief. Many teens who cut describe the sense of relief
they feel as they're cutting, which is common with compulsive behaviors. Some
people believe that endorphins might add to the relief teens describe when they cut.
Endorphins are the "feel-good" hormones released during intense physical exertion.
And they can be released during an injury.
Others believe the relief is simply a result of being distracted from painful emotions
by intense physical pain and the dramatic sight of blood. Some teens say they don't
feel the pain when they cut, but feel relieved because the visible SI "shows" emotional
pain they feel.
Feeling "addicted." Cutting can be habit forming. Though it only
provides temporary relief from emotional distress, the more a person cuts, the more
he or she feels the need to do it. As with other compulsive behaviors, the brain starts
to connect a momentary sense of relief from bad feelings with the act of cutting.
Whenever the tension builds, the brain craves that relief and drives the teen to
seek relief again by cutting. So cutting can become a habit someone feels powerless
to stop. The urge to cut — to get relief — can seem too hard to resist
when emotional pressure is high.
Other mental health conditions. Cutting is often linked to —
or part of — another mental health condition. Some teens who cut are also struggling
with other urges, obsessions, or compulsive behaviors. For some, depression
or bipolar disorder can contribute
to overwhelming moods that might be difficult for a teen to regulate. For others,
mental health conditions that affect personality can cause relationships to feel intense
and consuming, but unsteady. For these teens, intense positive attachments can suddenly
become terribly disappointing and leave them feeling hurt, anger, or despair too strong
to cope with.
Other teens struggle with personality traits that attract them to the dangerous
excitement of risky behavior or self-destructive acts. Some are prone to dramatic
ways of getting reassurance that they are loved and cared about. For others, posttraumatic
stress has had an effect on their ability to cope. Or they're struggling with
alcohol or substance problems.
Peer pressure. Some teens are influenced to start cutting by another
person who does it. For example, a teen girl might try cutting because her boyfriend
cuts. Group peer pressure can play a role too. Some teens cut in groups and might
pressure others to cut. A teen might give in to group pressure to try cutting as a
way to seem cool or bold, to belong, or to avoid social bullying.
Any of these factors may help to explain why a particular teen cuts. But each teen
also has unique feelings and experiences that play a role. Some who cut might not
be able to explain why they do it.
Regardless of the factors that may lead a teen to self-injure, cutting isn't a
healthy way to deal with even the most extreme emotions or pressures.