In a house with more than one kid, there are bound to be some problems. Brothers
and sisters borrow stuff, and don't always return it in top condition. Younger kids
sometimes feel like the older kids get to do whatever they want. Older brothers and
sisters think that the baby of the family gets more attention. These are typical problems
found throughout the ages, everywhere in the world.
When brothers and sisters don't get along, it's called sibling rivalry (say: SIH-bling
RYE-vul-ree). A sibling is a brother or sister and rivalry means competition. It's
normal, but too much competition can make for an unhappy home life.
Let's talk about getting along with brothers and sisters. They're not so bad, are
they?
What Is Sibling Rivalry?
A little competition isn't a bad thing. Sometimes it can keep you working hard
— like when you and your brother spend time shooting hoops. If he's good at
it, it may make you want to improve, too. But some sibling rivalry involves arguing,
like when you think your brother is hogging the ball. People who love each other might
argue sometimes, but too much fighting is unpleasant for everyone.
Have you ever heard of the green-eyed monster called jealousy? Sometimes brothers
and sisters are jealous of one another. For instance, if your sister always does well
at school, it may be frustrating for you, especially if your grades are lower.
Although you're probably proud of your sibling or siblings, it's normal to be a
little jealous, too. It may make you feel better to focus more on doing your own personal
best, rather than comparing yourself with a brother or sister.
All kids want attention from their parents, but sometimes you need to take turns.
If you're feeling ignored or like your sibling is always in the spotlight, talk to
your mom or dad. If a parent knows you're feeling left out, together you can figure
out ways to help you feel better again.