How do you tell a boy you don't like him as a boyfriend?
You might like a certain boy, but he likes someone else. Then there may be a boy
who likes you, but you don't like him "in that way." It happens a lot in the middle
school years — and beyond. But what do you do, especially if you feel put
on the spot to tell a boy whether you like him or not?
The first rule is to imagine yourself in his position. It doesn't feel good to
learn someone doesn't find you equally fascinating and wonderful. But you can't lie
about it either.
It's always OK to be honest about how you feel. But ignoring him, telling him to
go away, or telling a friend to tell him "No way!" would definitely hurt his feelings.
So what do you do? If you're honest, he will probably be disappointed. But if you're
honest without being mean, that's much better for you both.
Try this approach, which involves giving him a small compliment: "You're a [insert
compliment here: smart, funny, nice, etc.] guy, but I like you just as a friend, not
a boyfriend. I hope you're OK with that."
Good luck and we hope that works!
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Date reviewed: January 2017