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It's normal to think about sex often, just once in a while, or not at all. During puberty, chemicals called hormones affect your body and emotions in new ways. This can make you curious about sex and more likely to have sexual thoughts and feelings. As you go through these changes, you may start to find some people attractive.

What Is Sexual Attraction?

Sexual attraction or sexual desire includes thoughts, feelings, and body sensations about another person. You may think about or want to be near someone, or even feel awkward around the person. You might be happy or nervous. Your body may feel excited, warm, or tingly. It’s common to have crushes on people you know and even those you don’t know.

Some people aren't sexually attracted to anyone or have crushes. This is normal too.

What if I’m Thinking About Sex?

Most people think about sex long before they’re ready to have it. Choosing when to be sexually active is a big decision. It’s important to be emotionally ready and know how to protect your health and your partner’s health. Take your time.

Before you act on thoughts about sex, talk with your partner. It's also wise to talk to a parent or other trusted adult. And it's a good idea to see your doctor or someone at a clinic like Planned Parenthood. They can help you learn how to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and pregnancy, and talk to you about condoms and other forms of birth control.

How people think and feel about sex can be different for each person. It’s all part of becoming an adult.

Medically reviewed by: Lisa M. Buckloh, PhD
Date reviewed: June 2024